Here’s A Simple Way to Be More Influential, Persuasive, and Convincing.

And in the process, disarm one of the most common argument strategies.

Do you keep losing Arguments you think you should win? Here is a simple way to be more influential, persuasive, and convincing, and in the process, disarm one of the most common argument strategies.

In The Art of Being Right: 38 Ways to Win an Argument, 17th-century philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer proposed that: It would be best to give your opponent an opposite counterproposition to make them accept a proposition.If the contrast is glaring, the opponent will accept your proposition to avoid being paradoxical.

The key is to recognize a glaring counterproposal for what it is: an attempt, whether intended or not, to shift the argument away from logic and reasoning — away from its original form — to an either/or proposition that has nothing to do with the initial disagreement.But you must indicate that you agree with the counterproposition offered to get around it. (To paraphrase President Eisenhower, agree to what you agree on first, then work through what you don’t agree on.)

The critical lesson is this: just because you agree with someone that a situation exists does not mean you have to automatically agree on how to fix, or overcome, or improve that situation. Explore the entire article by Jeff Haden at Inc.com on How to Better Influence, Persuade, and Convince. @jeff_haden https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/keep-losing-arguments-you-think-you-should-win-a-simple-way-to-be-more-influential-persuasive-convincing.html via @Inc

Just Catch Up, have Regular Conversations, and Check in with others.

Being a small business owner can be a lonely, isolating business. There are lots of recommendations to mitigate this unavoidable problem. But here is one that resonates. Just call to check in and catch up with others, revitalize your support system by having regular conversations.

People often think of great relationships as being built on deep trust, meaningful interactions, and soul-searching discussions. While these count, research has found that even quick, superficial contact was positive. The new study shows an amazingly simple way to boost your wellness and happiness: Have a face-to-face conversation with a friend or colleague once daily.

When you catch up quickly, you stay in touch with what’s going on with people, and you have a basis to check in the next time. You learn your teammate has just made an offer on a house, and you ask about it the next time you see them. Or you find out their child was just accepted to college, and you can check in on the transition process when you run into them again. Or they share that they’ve put in for a new job, and you can offer your support.

Relationships are built on continuity and familiarity—so the more you know, the more you can build. And every tidbit you learn about them, or they learn about you, is a deposit in a bank to help you understand each other. So, catch up quickly on the elevator or send a brief email to check-in. Or call a friend during your commute time to let someone know you’re thinking of them.  

Focus on Others

Happiness is correlated with focusing on others more than yourself. Ask questions about how someone is doing, be present and focused, and demonstrate that you respect and support them. Complimenting others was also a contributor—so focus on what you sincerely appreciate about someone and express it.  

Joke Around

When you joke with someone about a situation, you reinforce common ground—something you can laugh at or roll your eyes about. And if you tease in a constructive way, you’re demonstrating that you know and understand a person. Of course, teasing must never be negative or disrespectful, but laughing together can help you bond and contribute to your well-being.  

Make It Easy

And it may be easier than you think, with quick contact, regular conversations, and checking in with even one close friend each day. Feeling connected and having a sense of belonging are significant determinants of all kinds of health, so it’s worth the effort.

Read the entire article: For Wellness and Happiness, Study Shows That Conversation Is Key:  by Tracy Brower, PhD, Senior Contributor, Forbes – For Wellness And Happiness, https://franpatresumes.com/conversationandhappiness
 
 

What should your approach to the job application process be?

Admittingly, creating job applications is very time-consuming, repetitive, and boring. And what’s worse, there are times when all you are getting for your diligent work is rejection letters. So, what can you do to make the best use of your limited job-searching time?

Here are five recommendations that could make a difference and improve your results.

  • Be very clear on why you are leaving your present position and what type and level of new position you seek.  Maybe you are happy with your current role but unhappy with your current employer, then it is possible that you are not sure you must leave, and your search is a want, not a need.
  • Don’t create “just in case” or exploratory applications. Your reason for leaving and the urgency to act will influence how you approach applying to jobs, which will influence the type of responses you receive. So be sure that you are genuinely job searching and not exploring your options.
  • Research the job, compensation, and company before you apply. Then apply only to the requisitions that match your career goals. Do not create “why not or just incase case applications!” Try to ascertain whether the company’s expectations for success in the role align with your ability to deliver and be a success in the role based on your skills, career expectations, and personal strengths.
  • Do not apply to jobs based on the job title alone. Job descriptions for positions with similar job titles can vary tremendously. So it is important that you read the entire job description carefully. Compare the jobs you are interested in with similar titles to decide on a proper match. Focus on companies and jobs where there is symmetry between your value system and the company’s values.
  • Above all, create fewer applications and more complete applications. Creating an untidy or unfinished application can doom your applications at the company for the current job you are applying to and any other position you may apply for in the future.
  • Job searching is very boring and time-consuming, too, so be prepared to spend considerable time doing it to achieve the desired outcome. Try to maintain a light, thoughtful approach throughout the process since job searching is probably the most un-fun thing you will do this year.

How to prove you are the right fit for the JOB?

Extensive experience as a Career Strategy Consultant, recruiting operations manager, writer, and developer of development of career tools has taught me that our ability to hire and retain the right consultants (or employees) and nurture them to value their talents, explain their skills, and offer resolution suggestions, is necessary to the successfully delivery of projects, and it can enhance employee retention.

In addition, teaching consultants and employees how to present their interests and career goals is an essential skill and one that is necessary to achieve one’s career goals. Working for oneself or developing one’s own business takes the fine-tuning of employee talents to another level.

Success also depends upon choosing my clients well, which helps to ensure that the job is done correctly and delivered in the agreed timeframe. Extensive experience in management roles at major corporations, small and large consultancies, and my current position helps. Writing a resume is more than cataloging skill sets and expertise. The resume is an advance picture of the person who will attend the interview. Hence all of our resume services include interview preparation.

In addition, to providing Resume Writing and Interview Preparation to jobseekers, my current projects include training managers in interview practice. These projects allow me to continue to learn from managers regarding what they seek in a resume and their goals when interviewing candidates. This combination of manager and jobseeker client interactions informs and continually updates my resume writing and interviewing training skills.

Where candidates often go wrong is thinking that they need to sell themselves at the interview. The resume has already done that, and since no one interviews an unqualified candidate, your job at the interview is to validate the fit. Let us help you by creating a resume that will parse well on ATS’ and work with you on interview preparation, so you can validate that you are the right choice/fit for the role for the team.

Communications Set Backs at the Job Interview

We tend to obsess about our performance at interviews and believe we must impress the Interviewer. We have so many things to say that we decide to resize our conversation and speak only of our skills and accomplishments.

Candidates often fail to recognize that interviews must be goal-defined and specific. Under pressure, many candidates forget to pay attention to this interview strategy. They are often unaware as they ramble about their extensive experience that they have lost their audience.

We should stop and acknowledge when we are not connecting with the audience during the interview. At times, we try to communicate in a complex style, and we forget to ask thoughtful relevant questions that, demonstrate our potential as contributing team members.

Communication setbacks at the interview may not mean that you are necessarily failing to connect personally, but it can mean that you are failing to impress that you are the right fit for the position and that you will be an excellent addition to the team.

Many applicants who believe themselves to be good communicators are often blistered with confusion as to why they fail to connect with managers at interviews, be it one person or a panel interview.

This conundrum suggests that we should try to create advocates for our candidacy for the position, and this can be best remedied at the close of an interview.

Here are two stabilizing questions you can ask before the interview ends, and the Manager says, “we’ll be in touch!”

1.      “What have been the career paths of those who previously held this position?”

If the previous incumbents been promoted to more senior roles? That could be a sign that the company recognizes and rewards high achievers and promotes from within. If you are replacing someone who left to work elsewhere, that could indicate that internal career progression could be a concern.

2.      “What are some of the challenges can I expect to face in this role?”

Here is your opportunity to get beyond the surface stuff and understand what it may be like to work at this company, or for this Manager, and what kind of circumstances you may have to battle. How honest and straightforward the Manager is in responding to these types of questions will tell you whether you will thrive in this new position or at this company.