Here’s A Simple Way to Be More Influential, Persuasive, and Convincing.

And in the process, disarm one of the most common argument strategies.

Do you keep losing Arguments you think you should win? Here is a simple way to be more influential, persuasive, and convincing, and in the process, disarm one of the most common argument strategies.

In The Art of Being Right: 38 Ways to Win an Argument, 17th-century philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer proposed that: It would be best to give your opponent an opposite counterproposition to make them accept a proposition.If the contrast is glaring, the opponent will accept your proposition to avoid being paradoxical.

The key is to recognize a glaring counterproposal for what it is: an attempt, whether intended or not, to shift the argument away from logic and reasoning — away from its original form — to an either/or proposition that has nothing to do with the initial disagreement.But you must indicate that you agree with the counterproposition offered to get around it. (To paraphrase President Eisenhower, agree to what you agree on first, then work through what you don’t agree on.)

The critical lesson is this: just because you agree with someone that a situation exists does not mean you have to automatically agree on how to fix, or overcome, or improve that situation. Explore the entire article by Jeff Haden at on How to Better Influence, Persuade, and Convince. @jeff_haden via @Inc